Myths and Truths: Part two
Myth: If you dissociate you are multiple
Everyone dissociates to a degree. Driving on the highway and passing your exit. Not realizing time passes when reading or engaged in something completely are normal examples. It is not uncommon for rape, incest victims, and war veterans to dissociate, that doesn’t make one a multiple.
There are criteria to be a multiple, and Dissociative Identity Disorder (D.I.D) Or multiple personalities is not the only possible diagnosis for a person who experiences dissociation
The following website has a good article on the different dissociative disorders: http://www.nami.org/Content/ContentGroups/Helpline1/Dissociative_Disorders.htm,
Myth: The normal amount of Souls to have is around 12.
There can be as few as 2 or as many as hundreds of Souls. There is simply no normal amount. Whatever the system needs to get through the childhood determines how many Souls there are
Myth: The host, or original born always interacts with the outside world.
For some multiples this is true. However not for all. For some systems the original is in hiding, and hasn’t been in the world for quite a long time.
It is also possible for the trauma to have been so severe that the host will never again be in the outside world.
Myth: The more Souls the more trauma there was.
It is generally accepted that either the same Soul is out for a certain instance of abuse time after time or for each new instance of abuse a new Soul is created. This means that many Souls can mean either a lot or a little amount of abuse, as not a lot of Souls can mean either a lot or a little amount of abuse.
The amount of Souls in no way correlates to the amount of trauma. It totally depends on the dynamics and contruction of the system.
Myth: The desired outcome for all multiples is integration or going back to one Soul.
Some multiples choose to integrate. Some multiples choose to work together as a team, often called co-operation.
For some multiples integrating may be a good choice. To some multiples the idea of integration is death of the Souls.
Some multiple systems don’t have an original or main soul to go back to which means integration is simply not possible.
Myth: Multiples aren’t real. They are just people out for attention and are simply acting or pretending.
While some people may see being multiple as some fun game, it is not. Sure there are probably a few people who fake, that is the exception.
Sharing your body and life with a group of people is not easy, it is something society doesn’t look kindly at. Among other things having no sense of time or distinction from past and present isn’t a fun way to live.
Yes the diagnosis is still being debated. Spending a period of time over months with a multiple does a lot to convince a person as to the validity of the diagnosis. (hubby asked I write that in)
The idea that multiples are out for attention is simply ridiculous. The fact is that many multiples lead isolated, secretive lives, often backing away from attention and only disclosing their diagnosis to a select few people.
Coming to terms with the idea that your childhood was filled with unspeakable horrors is not something most people want to face, why would people want to fake that?
In society, multiples are shunned, called crazy, disbelieved, and just not accepted. It is not a club that anyone wants to be a part of.
There was a study done once in which professional actors were given time to study and then tried to pretend to be multiple. The actors while able to stay in character for a time, often fell out of character during times of stress. Furthermore research showed even the best actors were unable to keep all the details of the various Souls straight.
Myth: It is impossible to forget something like incest and severe abuse for years.
This is something that some doctors and persons part of the FMS state. They have this research where they ‘prove’ people still remember bits.
This research however is done on benign untramatic things. Therefore the research cannot be applied to tramatic memories.
Incest victims forget, as do war veterans.
In a multiple system, the memories are not forgotten, they are simply displaced and walled off. It is the various Souls who carry memories, which are guarded secrets from other souls in the system. Splitting the trauma up this way keeps the system functioning, especially in childhood. It allows getting up going to school, eating, and all the other things a child would normally do.
Some doctors say that splitting saves the lives of some multiples.
Myth: All Multiples become child abusers themselves.
Do all abuse victims abuse? Do all people who witness a murder become murders? The idea that all of anything become a certain way is beyond ridiculous . It is true some multiples have Souls who do abuse just as it is true that some incest victims become abusers this is the exception not the rule. For the most part multiples having experienced abuse would never dream of doing such a thing to an innocent child and would rather die than be an abuser.
Still to come:
Are all multiples female? Are there measurable noted phsyiological differences between souls? Is bipolar or manic-depressive another way of saying someone is multiple? Are multiples rare? Do we belong locked away from society? Are we capable of relationships and love?
That is just a sampling of what is to come.